Dating with beautiful
The other day, at a Fashion Week party, my friend Alan and I stood against a wall, scanning the room for hot people, as you do.
“It’s weird,” he said contemplatively, staring into a sea of models.
“The guy I was dating would endlessly post half-naked selfies, and then wait around to see how many people liked them.
He just constantly needed validation.”Personally, the people I’ve been most attracted to—not the superficial kind of attraction we feel to a pretty person on a page, but a deep, chemical attraction—have not been conventionally beautiful.
“Lately, in order to want to sleep with someone, I actually have to them as a person.” He said this as if it were a mind-blowing revelation.
I told him that, at 31, the realization was probably a bit overdue, but I knew what he meant: As one gets older, it becomes harder and harder to be attracted to someone simply because of the way they look.
At certain times that can be a confidence boost, but it’s hard to deal with on a daily basis, especially when you don’t 100 percent trust the person you’re dating.” And this doesn’t just go for models, Millie says, but hot people in general.
“When you have so many people throwing themselves at you, you’re spoiled for choice, so there’s less incentive to be faithful.
“At one point I felt like I was dating a teenage girl,” she said.
While some people clearly feel proud to have a hottie on their arm, others are more comfortable having the upper hand in the beauty department.
If you’ve ever had someone look at you during sex with this completely euphoric expression, like, “I ,” you understand that “dating down” in terms of attractiveness can be a confidence boost in its own right.
And while I’m drawn to extremely beautiful people, I more often want to just stare at them or hang an oil painting of them on my wall rather than lie on top of them nude.
But I’ve also wondered if, deep down, I’m just intimidated by the idea of dating someone hotter than me.